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HIDALGO COUNTY HERALD FRIDAY, JANUARY 8, 2010 7 Just A Thought Instead of paying if back, pay it forward By RICK KRAFT Do a kind act for another then challenge them to "pay it for- ward." What? You mean "pay it back?" No, don't allow them to "pay it back." Instead, challenge them to "pay it forward!" Let me explain. A few years ago for Christmas, my children gave me the mmcie "Play it Forward," star- ring Kevin Spacey and Helen Hunt. The movie took place in Las Vegas, Nevada and is the story of a seventh grade boy who created a new con- cept in response to an assignment by his so- cial studies teacher. On the first day of class, the teacher chal- lenged the students to create a project that, by the end of the year, might somehow change the world. The students were puzzled at first and not quite sure what the teacher expected. Trevor, the sev- enth grader, immediately took action and sought to help the homeless, his family members, and his teacher. Throughout the movie the people touched talk about the concept of "pay it for- ward." The young man credited with the philosophy at one point explained it on the blackboard in Rick Kraft front of his class. He drew a circle With him- self represented by a stick figure inside the circle. He.then drew three circles below his circle" and connected the three circles with lines from his circle. In each of the three new circles he drew other stick figures representing lives he has touched by doing kind acts. Trevor explained that if he can do some- thing kind for three oth- ers and challenge each of them to do something kind for three others and they in turn challenge the three others they touch to do something kind for three more and so on, this world would be changed. The numbers of lives touched grows dramati- cally as the people whose lives have been touched "pay it for- ward." Significant here is the under- standing that when a person does something kind for a second, tile second person does not acquire a debt or obligation back to the first. Instead, the second person receives a responsibility to pass a kind act on to three new people. The .recipient does not pay back he giver, he pays it forward to others. A second part of the pay it forward philosophy is that the giver does not focus on himself in doing the giving. In other words, it'is important for the re- cipient to understand the concept of paying it forward in order for him to pass kind acts on, but who the person is who did the kind act is not important. In the movie recipients were unsure of even the name of the giver. The pay it for- ward concept focuses on moving forward to three others, not on the original source of the giving. The third significant ele- ment 'of "pay it forward" is the magnification of the kind acts. If the recipient paid back the giver, there would only be two lives in- volved. By suggesting three kind acts be performed for others, how- ever, the pay it forward philoso- phy has a magnification effect. If you count down the rungs Trevor pictured on the board, his own direct impact is only on three lives. But, those he impacts touch three more lives each and those nine do kind acts for twenty seven others. The twenty seven would then touch eighty-one lives and the eighty-one would touch 243 lives. All of this because of the magnification principle. It is an interesting concept in today's world where a com- mon question is "what's in it Foster, adoptive parents needed in ,New Mexico Submitted by CYFD Becoming a foster or adop- tive parent can make a huge dif- ference in the life of a child. Join us for an information meet- ing to be held this month of February in your area. Please call Ronny , Diaz, CYFD Foster & Adoptive Parent Recruiter at (575) 434-5950 ext. 121 for more informa- tion or visit us on the web at Se Habla Espanol Foster or Adopt a and she receives A's and B'sl She enjoys sports, shopping and read- ing, and has eclectic taste in the music she likes. Miranda is also known for her great sense of humor. It takes Miranda some time to trust adults, but she gets along well with younger chil- dren and likes ani- Miranda will need ongoing therapy and medi- cation management to be successful in an adoptive placement. Miranda wants to be for me?" The "me" world of today is more likely to do a kind act and then have the "you owe me one" mentality. Gifts are often given with expectations of receiving something back. It is as if we keep score in our rela- tionships with others. One might think, "Let's see, I need something. Who owes me?" The "pay it forward" con- cept works off the honor sys- tem. There are no score sheets and no self serving expectations that pass with the kind act, only an explanation and a hope other kind acts will be passed on. If everyone adhered to this phi- losophy, our world truly would be changed. With one exception, the en- tire world consists of individu- als other than yourself. What you do for yourself dies with you, what you do for others a.d0pted by a loving family, but lives on after you are gone. - " ' Would like to,keepmcorrtacraith ---= qIy  bh'a]lnge tO you today New Mexico Youth My.Name is Miranda B. Name: Miranda Age: 14 Gender: Female Story: Miranda is a proud member of the Navajo Nation and is also part African American. She is somewhat shy when you first meet her, but warms up with en- couragement. Miranda is very in- telligent and on target academi- cally. She enjoys going to school, where she is in regular education, her brothers and sisters. She will need a consistent and structured family that has training to man- age special needs children. ICWA applies, but we will consider all approved adoptive families. Please contact Deb Yost at (505) 327-5316, ext. 1019 to inquire about Miranda or for general in- formation on how you can be- come a foster/adoptive parent with the Children, Youth and Families Department, please call ]-800-432-2075. STOP LEG CRAMPS BEFORE THEY STOP YOU. Calcet  is designed to help stop low calcium leg cramps. Just ask your pharmacist. is to apply the "pay it forward" concept to your life. First, do a kind act for another. Second, when the person thanks you or expresses gratitude back to you, ask them to show their thanks by performing three kind acts for others and asking the others to pay it forward. Make it clear you have no expectation of any- thing in return that benefits you. Don't keep score of the kind acts you do. Your giving should be unconditional, with no ex- pectation of a return back to you. After all, there is no pay- ing it back, only paying it for- ward. Just a thought... Rick Kraft is a motivational speaker, a published author, and an attorney. To submit com- ments, contributions, or ideas, e-mail to rkraft@ mailto:thekraftlawfirm @ aol. com or write' to P.O. Box 850, Roswell, New Mexico, 88202 - 0850. A Picture From The Past Submitted by EDMUND SAUCEDOILordsburg Photo by GLEN DORSETT Photo courtesy ARTURO DIAZ/Lordsburg Altar boys and priests at St. Joseph's Catholic Church, Lordsburg, early 1950s Left to right: Caesar Flores, Margo Estrada, Jr., Tony Jimenez, Armando "Slick" Chaires, Pat Garcia (standing behind Slick Chaires), unidentified priest, Felipe Alvarez, Mike "Polie" Ramirez, Jr., Oscar Diaz, Raymond Estrada (standing in front of Oscar Diaz), Amado Alvarez, Father Kennaly (standing behind Amado Alvarez), and Arturo Lopez Letters to the Editor The Hidalgo County Her- ald urges readers to voice their opin- ions by writing in. Letters can be mailed to 212 E. Motel Drive, Ste. B, or can be e-mailed to Only let- ters that are signed by the au- thor will be considered for publication. All letters that are published should be consid- ered the opinion of the author, and not necessarily that of the Hidalgo County Herald. Read- ers are encouraged to practice their First Amendment right of free speech. Clarity Dear Editor: Le t cleart (Now where have we heard that?) The economy is picking up, we lost "just s' 432,000 jobs this week. What the hell is this? "Just" 432,000 jobs. I wonder how Con- gress would feel if they lost "just" 432 jobs. Wow! What a thought. Let's just kick everyone of these propagandizing jackasses out of office & see how they like it. If that health care bill is so great why does Harry Reid have to give 300 million dollars to Landru & hundreds of millions to Ben Nelson? AND GUESS WHAT? Your senators voted for it. Just because they wanted too WOW! Every other state is get- ting exemptions & deals. Appar- ently the bill ain't no damn good 9r they could get it passed on its merits ha. That's an Oxymoron, Merits? In Congress & the Sen- ate. Your senators are selling you down the muddy rjver-a river of no return. But that's all right be- cause its an historical bill, Wow! You're right, it's an historical bill. It's taking sovereignty from states & people & giving it to govern- ment. That's wrong folks. How can these politicians get up there 8 swear to up hold the Constitu- tion of the United States of America, then without consider- ing the Constitution vote to take rights away from the people. How? Folks, if you drop your pants enough, sooner or later these politicians will steal them, so look out. As Obama said be- fore, "We are just 5 days away from fundamentally changing the United States government, OK! He's working.on it I guarantee you. Folks, watch your pants. Remember what I told you about watching the right hand while the left hand is busy, well somehow Christmas Eve the Obama administration(bypassing congress), gave Fannie Mae & Freddie Mac an open check book, billions more dollars of your money. Wow, Unconstitutional, Yep, oh well. Oh yeah, GMAC,dorte got.. another 3.6 billion more of tax payer money, Why? 4.2 billion dollars pork passed on the back of the defense bill. Ole Pelosi took 3 plane.s to Copenhagen, Why? What did she try to give away while she was there? Lots of question, No an- swers ! Oh Well Your Government at work. Nuff said. God bless our Troops & our Country ! Gene Chadborn Animas, NM Show her much love 542-8880 On turo "Dude" Gonzalez Jr. Of Pahrump, Nevada his great achievement. We're proud ofyoul in Lordsbu i!ii I 214 E. MOIEL DRIVE IN LORDSBURG I We will be making workplace deliveries on Thursday and Friday (Feb. 11-12). Special Sale Rates on Thurs & Fri will apply! Free Delivery in Lordsburg! 542-8880