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HIDALGO COUNTY HERALD FRIDAY, JANUARY 31, 2014 7 Just A Thought Judging you, judging me, judging others By RICK KRAFT "If you judge people, you have no time to love them?' Words of wisdom.from Mother Teresa. Which is more important in our lives, judging others or loving them? In our lives, we spend a lot of time judging others. It happens daily, even hourly. There are two critical things to un- derstand about judg- ing others: We judge from our own per- sonal framework and we often don't have all the information about the person we are judging. Let me explain. Each one of us has in our head a framework of what we believe is acceptable and unacceptable behavior. It began the day we were bum and has de- veloped over our lifetime. It has been instilled in us from things we have been taught and things we have experienced. Since no one on the face of the earth has been taught exactly what I have been taught and no one has ex- perienced the steps I have expe- rienced, there is not another per- son alive who thinks out of the exact same framework that I do. I have been programmed by a great set of parents. I have been influenced and developed as I grew up by my family members, my friends, my school teachers, my Sunday school teachers, and so on. I went off to college and had a whole new set of influencers who worked on me for the next six plus years. I moved to Roswell and there has been yet another group of individuals who have impacted my life. Twenty-nine years ago I got married and my thinking has been and continues to be shaped by my wife. I interact regularly with those I work with and those I go to church with and they in- fluence me. I listen to CD's of books and of speakers I look up to - these national figures impact my thinking. I am the result of the influ- ence of many people. I see the Rick Kraft world like no one else ever has or ever will. When I judge another, the roots of my judging come from my view of the world that has developed over the past 55 years. Secondly, when I judge another, I often don't have all of the information. It is the saying "We judge oth- ers by their actions, we judge ourselves by our intentions." All I have to go by when I judge another is what I see externally and what I assume is inside the individual con- ducting the actions. If I pass someone I know in a store and they are rude to me, I assume they think I have done something wrong in their eyes. This person may have been rude to me because he just had an argument with his wife in the car before coming into the store and he is upset about what she said to him. In other words, his behavior may have had nothing to do with me. I just happened to walk into his path when he was very frus- trated. Nevertheless, I go home and in visiting with my wife I say "such and such was rude to me at the store." In this situation I am entitled to form my opinion. It is human nature and a way of life. But if I go on for a half hour blasting the individual because I am upset about not being treated friendly, I am walking too far down the "judging" path. So when we judge, we not only judge based on our own "set of rules," we usually judge with- out knowing all the steps the other person has walked. Character Counts founder Michael Josephson put it well when he said, "We judge our- selves by our best intentions and our most noble acts. However, we are judged by others by our last worst act." Think of public fig- ures who have fallen from grace. One action by a person sets in motion an array of different perceptions by others of the act performed. I like former UCLA Foster, adoptive parents needed in New Mexico Submitted by CYFD Becoming a foster or adop- tive parent can make a huge dif- ference in the life of a child. Join us for an information meeting to be held this month of Feb- ruary in your area. Please call Runny Diaz, CYFD Foster & Adop- tive Parent Re- cruiter at (575) 434-5950 ext. 121 for more information or visit us on the web at Se Habla Espanol Nathaniel, Eric, Persiaus Foster or Adopt a New Mexico Youth Name: Natharliel, Eric, and Persiaus Age: Nathaniel (Left) 7: Eric (Center) 6; Persiaus (Right) 3 Story: Meet this adorable sibling group of three: Nathaniel, Eric, and Persiaus. Nathaniel is in 1 st grade re- ceiving a regular education. His favorite school subject is math. He is a curious and active child and likes to interact with adults. He likes to receive individual at- tention and does well with struc- tured interaction. Eric is in Kindergarten and enjoys all subject areas in school. He is a bright child academically and socially. He stays on task with what- ever he is do- ing until the task is com- pleted. Persiaus is shy when she meets new people but will open up after a short time and commu- nicate with them. Persians also appears to be a bright child and is curious about her surroundings. Accord- ing to her foster parents, she is a typical 3-year-old little girl. The children enjoy spend- ing time playing games and be- ing outdoors as a family. They also like helping out and caring for animals. The three siblings are eligible under the Indian Child Welfare Act and only ap- proved licensed Navajo Families would be the best placement con- sideration. 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If you take care of the tree, the shadow should take care of itself. But regardless, all we can control is the tree. What happens with the shadow is out- side what we can control. So if you take very good care of your character, don't get too caught up in how others judge you. In the Bible at Matthew 7:1- 5 Jesus says "Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the mea- sure you use, it will be measured to you. "Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye." In Luke 6:37 it is written "Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive and you will be forgiven." Back to Mother Teresa's quote "If you judge people, you have no time to love them." Is it possible to judge others and still love them? Sure it is, but it can make loving another more diffi- cult. Obviously if you judge oth- ers positively, your judging helps the relationship. But if your judg- ing results in criticism, you are less able to love the one you are judging. In Mother Teresa's world, loving others was what her life was all about. She changed this world one life at a time. She worked hard on meeting the needs of the one in front of her, and didn't waste time trying,to judge the person she was minis- tering to on her view of the world. There are instances in our lives that require judging. Rais- ing children involves continuous judging. We must judge when we choose a spouse, determine who to hire, and select who to vote for in an election. The list goes on and on. So what I am saying is that there is a certain amount of judging required in living our lives. But there is much judging tllat doesn't need to occur. My challenge to you today is to follow Mother Teresa's more and judge less. Recognize that you are judg- ing another based upon your own internal framework. This is alright, just recognize it. Then seek to understand the other person's behavior. When I feel like being critical I often think "Is there a set of circumstances that would justify the person I am being critical of to take the ac- tion they have taken?" Remember the scripture found in Luke. Do not judge and you will not be judged, forgive and you will be forgiven. Just u thought... Rick Kraft is a motivational speaker, a published author, and an attorney. To submit comments, contributions, or ideas, e-mail to rkraft@ or write to PO. Box 850, Roswell, New Mexico, 88202 - 0850. 00DEDICATION March 4 r A Picture From The Past By EDMUND SAUCEDO/Lordsburg Photo courtesy of the JOHN A. JOHNSON, JR. HISTORICAL PHOTO COLLECTION Leon Speer, Pearl Harbor, Hawaii, 1945 Leon was born July 4, 1926 at Monte Verde Plantation, Rusk County, Texas. He and his parents, Claude and Edna Lehman Speer, moved to Lordsburg in July 1929, where Leon started school in the first grade in 1932, and graduated from Lordsburg High School in 1944 with his sweetheart and future wife, Margaret Bradberry. After graduation Leon volunteered for the Navy and was swam in September 4, 1944. In the latter part of that year, he came home from boot camp and married Margaret in Silver City. Three weeks later he was shipped to Pearl Harbor where he worked in the fire department in the Naval Supply Dep0t, ldvancing to the position of assistant chief of the station. ' Leon returned to Lordsburg in February 1946. He and Margaret went to Ft. Worth, Texas, where he attended barber college. They came back to Lordsburg and he went to work in his father's barber shop in October 1946. At that time the shop was next to the pool hall, also known as the recreation hall (owned by John A. Johnson, Sr.), on Railroad Avenue (Motel Drive). The building is now known as Menudos. After 21 years, the barber shop was moved to the old Conder Jewelry Store building (now demol- ished), next door to the First National Bank of Lordsburg (Western Bank). After six or eight years, the shop was moved to Main Street next to Slick's Package store. In 1972, Leon relocated the shop to the old A. L. Green Plumbing building, across the street from the old City Hall. The building is now owned by Michael Gutierrez doing business as Michael's Barber Shop. After 59 years of cutting hair, Leon retired in 2006. Leon has lived in Lordsburg since 1929, and has become such an authority on thetown's history that people assume he's a native. Both he and Margaret, who was born in Lordsburg, are excellent sources of information. Biological information on Leon Speer courtesy of JEANNE LA MARCA'S "OLD TIMER'S CAPE" 2006 Wellness Coalition Executiv,00 Director steps down after 10 years of service Submitted by TWC/Silver City The Wellness Coalition's Executive Director,' Sam Castello, is leaving his post as of March 4% 2014. Sam has been with The Wellness Coalition since February of 2004 and has served as its Executive Director since January of 2007. During his ten- ure, Castello brought The Wellness Coalition's Youth and Conservation Corps programs io the State and National spot- light - more than doubling the number of AmeriCorps Members in our region and building a ro- bust Youth Conservation Corps that employs more than 30 youth annually from Catron, Grant and Hidalgo counties. He also worked to raise the profile of Positive Youth Development in the region - a model of Youth Engagement that treats young people as assets to be supported rather than prob- lems that need to be "fixed". Castello guided the development and expansion of The Nonprofit Resource Center which is now a part of Hidalgo Medical Services' Center for Health Innovations as the Nonprofit Resource Group. "We appreciate the dedica- tion Sam has shown to our com- munities and this organization," says The Wellness Coalition Board Chair Christie Ortiz. "It's always tough to see someone leave, and we wish him success in his future endeavors." The Wellness Coalition Board has a nouncement very soon. Board Member Earl Montoya stated, "We want to thank Sam for his service and are looking forward to working with a new Executive Director to secure a great future for The Wellness Coalition and the communities we serve." Pro- grams such as AmeriCorps, Youth Conservation Corps and The Spot Youth Center are all expnding and thriving and will continue without interruption during the transition period. For more information about The Wellness Coalition, please visit . Contact: Christine Ortiz transition plan in place to seek a " Phone: 520-507-0455 new Executive Director and ex- Emaih hidalgospirit@yahoo pects to make a job opening an- .cam -Plate Sale Thursda 1 January 0 Delivery .Magdalena Olivas--542-9807 Christina Rodriguez--575-654-2220 g LA FRONTEI NE' MEXICO RX PRESCRIPTION PREVENTION What are the "Risks-'tfll='l taking Pain Killer that are not prescribed tO you? Prescription painkillers are powerful drugs. They can be dangerous, or even deadly, especially when taken at high doses, combined with alcohol, or when not prescribed to a person. 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