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10 HIDALGO COUNTY HERALD FRIDAY, JUNE 5, 2009 Common post graduation, issues addressed How to Make the Transition to and the real world through part- College time work and internships. She Question: What can I do to also gives workshops around the help make the transition from country on career exploration and high school to college easier? other issues directly related to Answer: There are threehelping students succeed in Col- main things you can- do over the lege, career, and life. summer to help prepare for col- •Preparing for the Empty Nest lege. One read one or more Question: My 18-year-old of the books on the first year of son will soon be going to college. college and getting ready for He's been rather disagreeable freshman year. Two, many col- lately, but I still want to get across leges will offer study courses or to him that he has me in his life to student-success courses your first help him. Nonetheless, he also semester or during summer often- needs to prepare for college by tation. I highly recommend you getting a summer job. I don't take a course like this. Third, do think this is my responsibility. He an honest self-appraisal of your is my only son and I miss him ter- strengths, weaknesses, and goals ribly already. How can I start pre- for your first year of college, paring myself for when he leaves? What areas do you think you Answer: You are understand- i-night struggle with? What are ably beginning to go through the your stressors? How might you anticipatory pains of missing, deal With those stressful times? your son as he readies himself to~ Thinking these things through attend college in the fall. He, too, and coming up with a game plan realizes he will be leaving home for yourself is one of the best and this puts him though a roller-, Ways to manage your future, coaster ride of emotions- fear~ There will be many temptations elation, confusion, doubt, and in college which can get you off excitement -- until he leaves for Course, but if you keep true to the college. Part of his current, less- golden rule of all things in mod- than-agreeable attitude is a result eration, y0u'll make life as easy of his trying to juggle all those as possible• emotions and begin separating Carol Carter is the author of from you, his home, his friends•,. many'books on college and ca- and all the people and routines reer planning. She is the co- that gave him a sense security. ounder of Lifeskills, Inc., a non- You need to be very clear )rofit organization that encour- about what you can and will do tges high-school students to ex- to help him obtain a summer job, )lore their goals, career options, while detailing what is required The Saucedo Law Office is closed. Sincere thanks to the many clients I've servec during my years in the private practice of law. I appreciateyour confidence and am grateful for having had the honor and opp.ortunity to serve you. RespectfutO,, Manuel D. i " Sam edo, Esq. of him in this job-application pro- cess. The best way to show him that he always has you in his life is to offer him encouraging words on a continual basis, reaffirming his good character traits, his in- telligence, his sense of humor, and his natural abilities. ExPecting him to thank you for your belief in him and his abilities may be unrealistic. He will hear what you're saying and it will have a very positive, comforting effect on his well-being. Parents need to realize that they've been raising their kids throughout adolescence to pre- pare them for this very time -- the day they leave home. Talk- ing to other family members and friends about your mixed emo- tions regarding his leaving for college will help. When both my kids left for college, I had the blues for a while. So many people were coming up to me and say- ing, "Carleton, you must be danc, ing in the streets to have your kids out of the house." My reply was, "No, I miss them." It's not unusual to miss someone that yon love and that especially includes miss- ing a child who leaves home for college. If your goal right now is to abide with your son throughout this confusing time, by letting him know that he's loved, you'll be giving him the best gift par: ents can give their children. Carleton Kendrick has been in private practice as a family therapist and has worked as a consultant for more than 20 years. He has conducted parenting seminars on topics ranging from how to discipline toddlers to how to stay ~connected with teenagers. Kendrick has appeared as an expert on national broadcast media such as CBS, Fox Television Network, Cable News Network, CNBC, PBS, and Na- tional Public Radio. In addition, he's been quoted in the New York Times, Washington Post, Chicago Tribune, Boston Globe, USA Today, Reader's Digest, BusinessWeek, Good House- keeping, Woman's Day, and many other" publications. Rodeo Field Day fun for all in Animas : are 100s Reasons to send flowers... we can help you with all of them! t.d It "{ Free Delivery in Ask us about our layaway program Lordsburg! 214 [. OIIl. DRIV[-IN I.ORI)SBLIR(; 542-8880 8 gpo.sored by the Knights of ˘olumubus Animas Community Center g Special Events ten er proceeds benefit American Cancer Society LIFE un lay