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HIDALGO COUNTY HERALD FRIDAY, JULY 11, 2014 7 Just A Thought learn know it all A Picture From The Past By EDMUND SAUCEDO/Lordsburg By RICK KRAFT I am far from perfect. I do my best to keep a good heart and a good attitude about others but, despite good intentions, I fail regularly. Although I feel that I have been blessed with much wis- dom, I still have a lot to learn. If I had a sign that hung around my neck it would say "WORK IN PROGRESS." God isn't finished with me yet. And He won't be fin- ished with me until my last breath. Even then He has more in store for me. Anyhow, I will qualify what I am about to share as an indi- vidual who fumbles regularly, but never gives up on carrying the ball. All of us need to carry the ball down the field, do the best we can with the time we hold it, pick the blasted thing back up off the ground when we drop it, and continue to move it on down the field. I believe that pride conquers humbleness too much in our lives. In the Bible we are told at Prov- erbs 16:1,8 that "Pride goes be- fore destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall." I don't believe that all pride leads to a fall, but I do believe that the repetitive his- tory of mankind supports the scripture verse I just quoted. The Romans became pride- ful and thought they would be the most powerful nation forever, and then they fell. Nazi Germany had pride in who they were. They totally messed up the world and then quickly collapsed. In be- tween we had France's Napoleon Bonaparte, Great Britain's sea far- ing kingdom, and many other powerful nations that rose to power and then fell. These nations rose to the top, then pridefully they collapse. Pride has literally completely toppled kingdoms, countries, na- tions, alliances, and companies. Collectively the entities such as these are made up of individuals who exhibit pride. But I don't want this column 't8 be about nations, I want it to be about individuals. All of this starts from within us. Pride has literally destroyed marriages, families, and friendships. I do think there are instances where pride is a healthy element for a person to possess. One ex- a'mple is pride in others. I am proud of my child when she ac- complishes something she has worked hard for. I am proud of a friend who, as an alcoholic, each day conquers his addiction. But pride can turn into a negative characteristic if it be- comes pride in oneself. One of the definitions of pride is "An unduly high opinion of oneself' or "ex- aggerated self-esteem, conceit," or "Haughty behavior resulting from arrogance." None of these definitions should make anyone seek a goal of being prideful. Ironically, pride and insecu- rity can manifest themselves in the same way. They are not oppo- sites, but they are cousins or sib- lings. The entire message of this column can be summed up in one quote. I hate to drop the core mes- sage into a column in the middle where it could get lost, but here it goes. John Wooden, one of my heroes, once said, "it's what you learn after you know it all that counts." Now let me take a step back. Our lives really need to be about serving others. If we are serving others then it is very difficult to be filled with pride. Look at the three definitions I provided above. All three of them focus on a person's view of himself. People with an overdose of pride lose touch with those they serve because it becomes about the Rick Kraft person,not the group. If our lives are about serving others, then we should recognize that any high opinion we have of ourselves or exaggerated self es- teem or arrogance should only exist to be leveraged for the ben- efit of others. It may just be a matter of se- mantics, but I think self confi- dence is an important attribute for a person to carry, but pride in one- self is not. Sometimes this is a thin line. So how do we have self con- fidence, but not pride? It comes down to one key personality trait, "humbleness." Humbleness is knowing that you don't know it all. It is recog- nizing that others have a greater importance than you. It is check- ing your ego or pride at the door and pouring what you have into others for the benefit of others. I like the quote by John Maxwell, "People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care." If you truly want to be effective in the lives you touch, you need to put the lives of others above your own. Only then can pride not have a foothold on your world. I think a lot of the anguish each of us experience is because we have our own pity parties. We think that this world is about us. The old song goes "It's my party and I'll cry if I want to?' And, "You wotiid cry too if it happened to you." If your life is about your party, then you run a high danger of being possessed by pride and an egocentric world view. You may find your- self looking down on others in the world around you. If you are possessed by humbleness and recognize that you can contribute to the lives of others, then you look up at those you interact with. My challenge to you" today is to recognize that your life is work in progress. Every person you interacV~vith is a special person with special needs. Ev- ery person you interact with has something that you can learn from. If you ever get to the point where you think you know it all, your ability to change this world is hindered and although you maff feel like the sharpest crayon in the box, you are likely headed for a fall. You see, it is what you learn after you think you know it all that is most important. Just a thought... Rick Kraft is a motivational speaker, a published author, and an attorney. To submit comments, contributions, or ideas, e-mail to rkraft@ kraftandhunter'cm or write to PO. Box 850, Roswell, New Mexico, 88202 - 0850. Luis Antonio ("Tony") Gonzalez, Jr. (age 13) Daniel Gonzalez (age 9) July 3, 1974 - Sept. 11, 2001 Jan. 5, 1988 - May 5, 2014 The Gonzalez Brothers - both lost at a very young age. Tony Gonzalez, Sr. and Esther Marie (Romero) Gonzalez, of Lordsburg, lost their two sons, Luis Antonio, Jr. ("Tony") and Daniel when the boys were in the prime of their young lives. Tony was 27and Daniel was 26. The young men were raised in Lordsburg and educated in the Lordsburg schools. Applications available for Fall 2014 Family Cancer Retreat Submitted by CSNM/Albuquerque Cancer Services of New Mexico's Fall 2014 Family Can- cer Retreat will be held Septem- ber 12-14, at the Marriott Pyra- mid North hotel in Albuquerque, NM. This free, three-day educa- tional program will provide New Mexico's adult cancer patients/ survivors and their loved ones with the tools and information . .including: they need to manage the treat- ment and recovery process. 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