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HIDALGO COUNTY HERALD FRIDAY, JULY 20, 2012 7 Just A Thought I promise...until death do we part By RICK KRAFT I love my wife. I really do. She is my best friend Together we complete one another. Added together we total more than the parts. Tomorrow we celebrate the 28th anniversary of our wedding. That is 56 years be- tween us...longer than :!!; either of us have been i tl alive ! ar We were different ,, people back when we got married, she and I. We were "kids" com- pared to the people we are today. Family and friends traveled from afar for our wedding ceremony. We walked the aisle, said "I do." Rick pledged our lives to each other until death do we part. and left the church planning to share a lifetime together ahead with high hopes of fulfilling our promises to each other. This ritual has been done many times by many couples and sometimes the lifetime planned together becomes something shorter. Nevertheless. I am un- aware of any couple who has got- ten married with the intention of divorcing some day in the future. So high hopes at the alter don't guarantee a lifetime marriage. I am not sure that anyone really knows what lies ahead when they leave their wedding ceremony. To me it is a miracle that God put Tanya and I in each other's path and that through our relationship we have been blessed in so many ways beyond our wildest imagi- nation. I am not perfect. I am far from it. Come to think of it, Tanya isn't perfect either. But we do well to- gether. The wife I married in 1984 is not the same wife I have today She has grown and changed as have I. This is a good I wouldn't be inter- ested in the woman I fell in love with almost three decades ago if she were the same perspn today as when I met her. But over our years together we have changed and grown closer as time has passed. Now there are things that she does that really annoy me. Things that I spent years trying to change in her only to Kraft realize that what I needed to do was not try to change her. bu! to change myself. It is often little things, which in the big picture are inconsequen- tial. that trip us up. I still need to remind myself often to keep little things little things. If she knew I was writing this column she would have me add that there are things I do that drive her "bonkers" also. 1 would not be able to argue with her on this. This leads us back to the state- ment above that I am far from per- fect We don't strive for perfec- tton in our relationship, this ts un- attainable, but we do practice commitment. No matter how big or small the issue is that divides us. we are committed to ending our dispute as husband and wife. committed to one another until death do we part. We have much in common and that is what pulled us to- Grant to help low-income NM veterans, families Submitted by SEN. JEFF BINGAMAN'S OFFICEIWashington,. DC U.S. Senator Jeff Bingaman announced this week that the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs (VA) has awarded Goodwill In- dustries of New Mexico a $572580 grant to help prevent homelessness among New Mexico veterans and their fami- lies. "This grant will make it pos- sible for Goodwill Industries of New Mexico to continue provid- ing support services to veterans who are struggling, particularly in this difficult economic envi- ronment," Bingaman said. Funding was awarded through the. VA's Supportive Ser- vices for Veteran Families, which helps provide very-low-income veterans and their families with a range of supportive services de- signed to promote housing sta- bility. Services include: case management: assistance with 0b- taming VA and other public ben- efits, linking to needed healthcare services, daily living services, fi- nancial planning, housing coun- seling, job development, child care. legal services and other ser- vices. Goodwill Industries will use the funding to serve approxi- mately 630 participant house- holds in the counties of Bernalillo, Sandoval, Torrance, and Valencia, Cibola, McKinley, and San Juan and the tribal lands of Cochiti, Isleta, Jemez, Laguna, Zia, San Felipe, Santa Ana, Santo Domingo, Navajo, Zuni, Ute, and Hopi. Love-Grandma Chayo, Uncle Dominic, (]real Grandma Welly, Aun.hes Erica , Emily & Cousins gether. We also have differences between us in the way we see the world and the way we move through it. We seek to celebrate our differences because there are so many of them. I am confident that if we focused on our differ- ences then we would both be mis- erable. What I am saying is that what we focus on, good or bad, expands. Becatise of our long relation- ship together, any time I want to get her angry, I can make this hap- pen in just a matter of minutes. I know what to say to "get her goat" and make her furious. This concept swings both ways. If she wants to ruin my evening, all she has to do is chose a topic of con- flict between Us and the end re- sult will not be a good one. It is the power over one another that comes with a marriage. The reason we have been best friends for almost three de- cades is that each of us indepen- dently 'chooses to not make the other miserable...and it takes both of us making this decision. This doesn't mean we don't argue or don't have to work through rough areas from time to time, it just means that at the beginning of the discussion and at the end of the discussion we are still fully com- mitted to one another and the re- lationship we have built. This concept is simple and applies to all relationships be they husband/wife, parent/child, employer/employee, or nation to nation. If you want unity m a re- lationship, focus on what you agree on. If you want conflict, focus on what you disagree on. Some of our best talks we have had are driving down the highway on a long trip. This gives us the time to break apart and put back together any topic that either of us chooses to ad- dress. The solidity of our relation- ship has had a major impact on our ability to parent. The com- mitment we have had to one an5 other has benefitted our two chil- dren whom we have launched into the world. We assume their fives will live on after we are gone.. They are the legacy we will leave. We have done our best to model for them a healthy hus- band/wife relationship and fa- ther/child and mother/child rela- tionship I have encouraged many parents over the years to model for their children the rela- tionship they want their children to have with their spouse or their own children. My challenge to you today is for you to have a healthy and fulfilling marriage. I know it takes two and that you can only control one, but be sure you are doing what you can with the one that you can control. In your parenting, provide an example worth following for your children who will some day be husbands and wives and fathers and mothers themselves. I pray blessings on your mari- tal relationship. It is my hope and desire that in your relationship with your spouse you and your spouse grow together as the years pass, that you can focus on what brings unity in your relationship, that you are the best spouse you can be, and that your marriage continues a lifetime until death do you part. Just a thought... Rick Kraft is a motivational speaker, a published author, and an attorney. To submit comments, contributions, or ideas, e-mail to rkraft@kraftandhunter'cm or write to P O. Box 850, Roswell, New Mexico, 88202 - 0850. KOOI TRE NOW OPEN' at 610 inter Street * Lordsburg shaved lee /0000-_0and00l popooPll Ootton Oalld00l-00,00 l000tter U Pop0opll .OwrO. All Movies, including j...j.u... New Releases, 9 .,,s,.,,, A Picture From The Past By EDMUND SAUCEDO/Lordsburg Photo courtesy of EMELITA LUJAN I Las Cruces Lico Lujan's biography courtesy LALO RUIZ 1 Phoenix Fred "Lico" Lujan - (1929 - 1994) Founder of Lordsburg Little League Fred "Lico" Lujan was born in 1929 in Marfa, Texas. In 1954, he married Esperanza ("Espe") Fuentes, former resident of Lordsburg. Espe, who now resides in Las Cruces, is the sister of Tommy ("Hound") Fuentes, Hector ("Bones") Molina and Mary Guerrero Alarcon. Lico and Espe had four children: Lita, Andy (deceased), Freddie and Sonya. Andy and Freddie played based at Las Cruces High School and were later inducted into the New Mexico Softball Hall of Fame. Lico played semi-professional baseball with teams based in E1 Paso, Fredericksburg, Midland, Odessa and Pampa, Texas, and with a team in Yuma, Arizona. Lico was forced to retire from baseball due to a shoulder injury, however, he continued with baseball by coaching baseball in the youth leagues in Las Cruces. In 1956, Lico and his family moved to Lordsburg where he worked as a truck driver transporting gasoline from Artesia, NM and El Paso, TX to Arizona. Lico is best remembered in Lordsburg for taking an interest in Lordsburg's youth and being proactive in starting the Lordsburg Little League Baseball program. Lico and Espe were close friends of the Pete and Aurora Ruiz family of Lordsburg. Lico became mentor to Lalo Ruiz, son of Pete and Aurora, and influenced Lalo's life in many positive ways. When Lico discovered that Lordsburg did not have a Little League program, he and Lalo approached Lordsburg Mayor Alan Koff with the idea of starting the summer baseball program for boys. Mayor Koff was in total agreement with the idea and, with the City Council's help, provided a baseball field with appropriate lighting for night time games. Lieo was successful in finding local businesses tO sponsor and support the various teams by providing the necessary baseball equipment. Lico became head coach and Lalo assistant coach Some of the players who participated in that first year of Lordsburg Little League were John Dallies, Ray Renteria, Frank Estrada, Bobby Camacho (pitcher for Banner Mine Team), Sammy Sandlin, Joe Sanchez, Fred and John LaMarca, Skitter Varela, Richard Lopez, David Martinez, Frankie Corral, Herdy Holguin, and early Bejarano. Alberto Lopez was umpire and Les Harvell was Banner Mine coach. Many of Lordsburg's older residents remember Lico and the inauguration of Lordsburg's first Little League program Lico is credited not only for starting the baseball program, but alSo for mentoring the youth of Lordburg and opening the door to a summer program that kept kids off the street and interested in baseball. When YOU need SOMEONE to TALK to, I am HERE l for you- to LISTEN to you! + Confidential + No Condemnation +" Please call me or come by! Dick Davis 807 Duncan Hwy, Lordsburg 57.5-590-0143