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i FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 26, 2014 7 HIDALGO COUNTY HERALD Just A Thought In our days here we are ing the dash By RICK KRAFT There is an exercise that mo- tivational speaker and writer John Maxwell does at some of the seminars he teaches. He gives each participant a note card. He then has each person write down on the card their full name, first, middle, and last, and then write underneath their name the date they were born and then a dash. He points out that each of us knows those entries will appear on our tombstone, but we don't know what the date after the dash will be. What we do know is that there will be a date follow- ing the dash. Billy Graham once said, "We cannot truly face life until we face the fact that it will be taken from us." We are each living the dash. Several years ago I had the opportunity to hear Lou Holtz speak at a conference in Albuquer- que. In his talk he told about a walk he took in a graveyard in England when his college foot- ball team was playing overseas. Without missing a word, Coach Holtz recited from memory a say- ing that was on a plaque in the graveyard. It is entitled, "The Dash": Rick Kraft "I've seen death stare at me with my own eyes in a way many cannot know. I've seen death take others but still left me below. "I've heard many scream of mother's cries but death refuses to hear. In my life I've seen faces filled with many tears. "After death has come and gone a tombstone sits for many to see. But it is no more than a sym- bol of a person's memory. "I've seen my share of tombstones but never took the time to truly read. The meaning behind what is there for others to see. "Under the person's name it read the date of birth, dash, and the date the person passed. But the more I think about that tomb- stone, the important thing is the dash. "Yes, I see the name of the person but that I might forget. I also read the date of birth and death but even that might not stick. "But thinking about the in- dividual I can't help but to re- member the dash, because it rep- resents a person's life and that will always last. "So when you begin to char- Foster, adoptive parents needed in New Mexico Submitted by CYFD Becoming a foster or adop- tive parent can make a huge dif- ference in the life of a child. Please call Ronny Diaz, CYFD Foster & Adoptive Parent Recruiter at (575) 434-5950 ext. 121 for more in- formation or visit us on the web at Se Habla Espanol Foster or Ruben and to learn new things at home or in school. Ruben is currently attending therapy where he is learn- ing about bound- aries, how to make good choices, and how to ask for his needs to be met. He does best when he is able to re- ceive a lot of indi- vidual attention. Ruben will need a family that can set rules, rou- tine, and structure. Adopt a New Mexico Youth Name: Ruben Age: 8 Story: Ruben is an outgoing and engaging little boy. He en- joys playing basketball and has a great sense of humor. His other interests include arts & crafts, playing Uno, and with Legos. Ruben loves to color and draw His new family should be sup- portive, patient, and willing to, engage ,in family.therapy. Iris also important to Ruben that he remain in contact with his sib- lings. For more information about foster or adoptive parenting through the New Mexico Chil- dren, Youth and Families Depart- ment, please call 1-800-432-2075 or visit ter your life make sure you're on a positive path. Because people may forget your birth and death but they will never forget your dash." We are each living our dash. We have a period of time here and then we are gone. One or more of us reading this may not be around next week at this time. We could soon become commemorated by a dash. Samuel Johnson said, "It matters not how a man dies, but how he lives." So while we are still alive, how do we choose to live. Each day is a gift that is un- wrapped as we live it. When you lay your head on your pillow to- night, this day has been spent. As you look back on your day, have you added value to the lives of others? Or do you just have one less day to make a difference? Sometimes it doesn't take much. Marian Wright Edelman wrote, "We must not, in trying to think about how we can make a big difference, ignore the small daily differences we can make which, over time, add up to big differences that we often cannot foresee." It has been said that if one pays attention to the little things, the big things will take care of themselves. The Bible says in Matthew 6:21, "For where your treasure is there your heart will be also." What is your treasure? Where you spend your time will show where your treasure is. Spend time on what is meaningful to you. Spend time on your priorities. Spend your time on what you want your dash to represent. Stephen Covey writes, "Put- ting first things first means orga- nizing and executing around your most important priorities. It is liv- ing and being driven by the prin- ciples you value most, not by agendas and forces surrounding you." It doesn't do any good to climb to the top of the ladder only to realize that it is leaning against the wrong wall. My challenge to you today is to recognize that our lives are fleeting. All of us will die sooner or later. Our lives will someday be represented by a dash. What dash will you be leaving? What will your dash represent? The decisions you make today will make up that dash. Live your life to make a difference. Live your life as you want to be remem- bered, because you are living your dash. Just a thought... Rick Kraftis a motivational speaker, a published author, and an attorney. To submit comments, contributions, or ideas, e-mail to rkraft@ or write to P.O. Box 850, Roswell, New Mexico, 88202 - 0850. LOCAL FOOD In Hidalgo County Available Now at eh Fairgrounds: Cherry Tomatoes. 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Louis has been the Lordsburg High School Football Coach and Athletic Director for several years, and Ruben is a profes- sional hair stylist and former full time National Guardsman. Joel's parents were the late Marce and Frank Orona, Sr., and Louie and Ruben's parents are Ramona and Clemente Balsa of Lordsburg. BEST PALS! Dispatch New Mexico- Violence against By TOM MCDONALD Thanks, NFL, for sparking a worthy national conversation. When it comes to the issue of domestic violence, you've given us a wealth of examples about how not to behave. Of course, it's more important to talk about how such vio- lence hits us at home, in our local communi- ties, but it's easier to discuss it when some faraway football play- ers are under the mi- croscope. So let's ease in and start with Ray Rice. That's where it began for the NFL, after the Baltimore Ravens running back was caught on vid- eotape beating his girlfriend Janay Palmer unconscious in a hotel elevator. The videos went public earlier this month, after Palmer had married Rice, while the actual beating occurred last February. Since then, four other NFL players -- Grog Hardy, Ray McDonald, Quincy Enunwa and Johnathan Dwyer -- have been arrested on domestic abuse charges, and Adrian Peterson was indicted on a child abuse charge (for allegedly hitting his 4-year- old son too hard during a spank- ing with a switch). NFL officials are handling all this with incredible inepti- tude, bearing down on the offend- ing players only after their origi- nal, weak disciplinary actions made them look insensitive; then, with crocodile tears in their eyes, they apologize for not "get- ring it right" the first time around. And it's not just NFL commis- sioner Roger Goodell who's mak- ing the league look so bad; the teams' owners and managers are culpable too. Their hypocrisy has been pathetic, but to expect the NFL to be a beacon of morality is an absurdity anyway, so I'll not Edwards Taxidermy has the largest selection of Outdoor Edge, and Havalon Knives in the Southwest, including replaceable blade knives. We have a huge selection of Hi Mountain meat season- ings and equipment for making jerky and sausage, and for grilling, rubbing, and marinating your meatl We also carry the Hunting GPS Map Cards for New Mexico and Arizona, that show private land ownership, and we have a big selection of "How To" DVDs on field dressing, caping, deboning, and processing your meat. Come By and Check Us Out I EDWA00 TAXIDERMY 25 Pecan Drive Lordsburg, NM l  575-574'0291 -'=rl Tom McDonald women vs. harp on that. Instead, let's get back to the real issue, domestic violence, which has been around much longer than football -- as have other forms of violence against women. On the front page of last week's Rfo Grande Sun is a story about a woman who was badly beaten in an attempted rape and left for dead on a back road. Monique Ortiz courageously sat for an interview with the newspaper and al- lowed her terribly bat- tered face to be photographed, so the brutality of the assault is hor- rifically clear. Jonathan Peralta, 21, has been charged with the at- tack. Of course, this is a case of an attempted rape, not a domestic assault, but I wonder if there's a connection between the two. It was reported that Peralta's mother told police she noticed blood in her car (where the assault al- legedly took place), but she didn't want to say anything to her son be- cause, accord- ing to an in- vestigator, "he would get up- set and yell at her." Could such hostility lead to acts of real manhood The fact is, every community has a problem with violence against women, and while it shows itself in many ways, more often than not, it's behind closed doors, inside someone's home. So how is our society re- sponding? We condemn the abus- ers, but even if we toss them in jail and throw away the key, there are more men to take their place. Then we psychoanalyze women like Janay Palmer Rice, who not only stayed with her abusive man but married him as well. And we' call women like Monique Ortiz heroes because they survived and spoke up about it. As far as I'm concerned, I hope Ms. Ortiz comes out OK and that the nightmares she keeps waking up with go away soon. As for Mrs. Rice, I wonder if she un- derstands that if he did it once the odds are he'll do it again. And while I think Ray Rice deserves some jail time, I also hope he somehow conquers his demons before he hurts her again. Maybe we, as a society, need to redefine manhood. A STOP ou,00 foot- all player loes not a nan make. DOMESTIC ?hat's just a ;ame. In the eal world, a eal man is a wotector, a Jrovider, :ven a turturer. And vhen he gets mad, taking it violence against other women? I can't say that's the case with Peralta -- we've got to give him the benefit of the doubt while the judicial system resolves his case -- but I suspect any young man who disrespects his mother to the point in which she's afraid of him is a prime candidate for future vio- lent behavior. out on women and children is simply not an option. Tom McDonald is editor of the New Mexico Community News Exchange and owner-manager of Gazette Media Services. He may be reached at tmcdonald@ gazettemediaservices, corn. APPY2ND /2012 BIRTHDAY