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HIDALGO COUNTY HERALD
FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 4, 2015 7
Just Thought
Ending temptation before it begins
By RICK KRAFT"
I want to share with you to—
day a message that I have put to-
gether based on an article I read
several years ago that appeared
in “New Man Magazine,” a Chris—
tian magazine for
men. It was entitled, ,_
“Tell Your Daughter,
Quit Tempting My
Son” and was written
by a pastor named
Jody Vickery. It had an
interesting premise
that I think is worth
exploring.
The article is di-
rected at fathers (and
mothers) of junior
While women are more apt to pro—
cess data through emotions, men
are more apt to process through
the visual aspect. Boys, when
they hit their teen years, begin this
visual struggle for the first time.
They need to learn
how to handle the
temptations that
come along with the
visual intake.
Pastor Vickery
' writes about parents’
responsibility to
teach their sons not
to yield to physical
temptations. He rec-
ognizes the account-
ability parents of
high and high school RIckKrafl sons have in the
girls written by a fa— courtship arena. It
ther of teenage sons. Pastor takes two to tango. Yet then he
Vickery wrote about how he was
in a gathering of about 40 teen-
age boys and a few adult chaper-
ones talking about the tempta-
tions they face in their adoles-
cence with teenage girls.
One of the boys timidly
raised his hand and shared, “I’ll
get this started. My problem
is...well...I struggle with lust. I
think about it all the time. I can’t
help it.” With that the floodgates
opened and one young man after
another shared. The roots of his
article came from a comment
shared to the group by his son,
“Sometimes, when we’re in the
car and drive by a Hooters bill—
board, I see my dad look at it out
of the comer of his eye.”
The author found himself, as
a leader and a role model, in a
difficult position. Pastor Vickery
openly spoke about how it is dif—
ficult for him to not linger his look
when he drives by a Hooters bill-
board. He shared that at age 40
he still struggled and how he had
a friend who was 60 who also
continues to struggle. His words
to the young men were, “This one
isn’t going away, guys. You’ll
have to fight it from now on.”
Any man reading this can
attest to the fact that he is right.
Regardless of age, men are very
easily visually stimulated. The
same trait that causes a man to
look, then study a vintage car or
motorcycle of his liking or a
unique gun, results in a lingering
look at an attractive female.
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takes a different direction with his
comments.
He asks the fathers and moth—
ers of daughters to help him out.
He writes, “I’m trying to raise my
sons to respect women for who
they are, not how they’re built. (If
they get all excited about how a
’69 Chevy is put together, fine.)
My job as a father of sons is to
teach and model how a Christian
man relates to women. That’s a
tough task these days. You can’t
drive down the road or stand in
line at the grocery store without
seeing women displayed like
items on a buffet table. It seems
you can’t type the words ‘Mother
Teresa’ into a search engine with-
out being given links to porno—
graphic web sites. With many
other fathers of sons, I’m swim-
ming against the cultural tide.
“But then, so are you. It oc—
curred to me only recently, but
that girl on the billboard (and in
the magazines, movies and Web
sites) is somebody’s daughter. I’ll
bet you thought of that one years
ago. I’m concerned about how my
sons will treat women. You’re
concerned about how your
daughter will be treated. Will she
be respected? Will she be hon-
ored? Will she be treasured the
way you treasure her? If she mar-
ries one of my boys, I’m doing
everything I can to make the an-
swers to those questions ‘yes.’
“So here’s where I need your
help. A day into that week—long
youth event, another male chap-
erone asked, ‘Is it just me or have
little girls changed?’ I had noticed
it, too. ‘I know what you mean,’ I
said. ‘I don’t remember them
looking so...grown up.’
“Every other 14-year-old
girl looked like she’d just stepped
off the cover of Cosmo magazine
(and I’m not referring to their care-
fully applied make-up). Their
jeans appeared to be painted on.
Their shirts accentuated every rise
and fall. Honestly, you had to
work not to notice cleavage. I had
to remind myself that this was a
Christian youth event, complete
with what I thought was a rather
strict dress code. It’s amazing how
some girls can obey the letter of
the law yet so creatively violate
its spirit. No wonder the boys
were struggling with impure
thoughts.”
Pastor Vickery doesn’t re-
lease the parents of teenage boys
from their responsibilities, yet he
places a responsibility squarely
on the shoulders of parents of
teenage girls. Without stating it
specifically, he is asking the ques-
tion of parents of teenage girls,
“How is it that your daughter got
out your front door with that re-
vealing outfit on?” or “Why is it
that you allow your daughter to
make overcoming temptation a
more difficult challenge for my
son?” Something to think about.
My challenge today is to
parents of teenagers, and parents
of future teenagers. If you are rais—
ing a boy, teach him restraint. If
you are raising a girl, don’t allow
your daughter to make it any more
difficult on the boys than it is al—
ready. As Pastor Vickery wrote,
“I’m praying that when they see
temptation coming, my boys will
look the other way. I’m asking
you to make sure that when they
see your daughter in the church
lobby or the school hallways,
they won’t have to.”
Just a thought...
Rick Kraft is a motivational
speaker, a published author, and
an attorney. To submit comments,
contributions, or ideas, e-mail to
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